If you need your partner to start trusting you again, you will need to focus on acting predictably. Seeds of suspicion are planted when one partner suddenly loses weight, buys a whole new wardrobe or starts coming home late from work. These changes in pattern harbor distrust in the other partner. If you are consistent in what you do, your partner can start to trust you again. Don't however let this tip completely rule out spontaneity. It is still okay to be spontaneous and fun loving, but do it with your spouse.

Still on the topic of being predictable, there will be times in your life when you are feeling a bit personally unpredictable. Every person changes at some time in their life. Sometimes you may feel quite unsure about who you are, what is happening and where you are going. Every person, marriage and family experiences a bit of chaos at some time that will affect the way you think and react. These issues are actually a part of you searching for something better or deeper, and should be valued. You will need to communicate to your partner when you are feeling this way. Ask for patience and ensure that your partner understands your intent in your actions is not to hurt them or drive them away. Ask your partner to be there for you, be honest with how you are feeling and share your experience with them.

Body language and facial expressions go a long way in establishing trust. Your words must match the message. Mean what you say and say what you mean. If your spouse hears one thing in your words, but your body language and tone of your voice is saying something completely different, they will no longer trust you. How does your partner know which message to believe? You can only trust and respond to a real message.

Keeping secrets is only going to further destroy a marriage. We've all heard the saying "the elephant in the room". Well, there should be no "elephants in the room" between husband and wife. It takes energy to keep a secret, to "walk around or hide the elephant". The partner not in the know will only feel "the elephant" and this will erode trust. You don't need to divulge everything from your past, if you have forgiven yourself and learned from those behaviors, however you do need to share behavior or mistakes that are taking up room in your marriage. Sharing and effectively discussing what you have learned from the act, will help to rebuild trust.

In married life, both individually and together, you are faced with obstacles, trials and moments of hurt. These should be taken as lessons that, if dealt with correctly, will in turn help yourself and your marriage grow. Mistakes can be made, and if you can learn from them, share them with your spouse, and rebuild the trust that is so vital in a marriage, then you can overcome your marriage troubles.